A new beginning
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Born in March 2005. Indian father, Costa Rican mother and already many friends in several other places around the world. Welcome to the blog by Fabian's mom! / Nació en marzo del 2005. Su padre es de India, su madre de Costa Rica y desde ya tiene muchas amistades en varios lugares alrededor del mundo. ¡Bienvenidos a la bitácora de la mamá de Fabián!
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Diwali Meaning & Significance
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Costa Rica´s newspaper La Nacion, published the Spanish version of this interesting article, "India´s Democracy at 60":
El periódico de Costa Rica, La Nación, publicó este interesante artículo con motivo del 60 aniversario de la independencia de India:
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I just came across Firangi Mama - a blog by a New Englander with a South Indian husband and their little girl. They lived in Bangalore for some time and now they´re back in the U.S.A. I enjoyed reading her archives and found the following anecdotes very familiar because they brought memories of my days in India:
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Remember...this is the SHORT version. I will spare you with the agonizing details, but I will tell you that I went through this hell twice: for MasalaDad when he came to Costa Rica in 2003 (for our wedding) and for Fabi who also has an Indian passport.
After Fabi's visa got rejected...it took 6 months (!) for the application to go through. Since the visa was valid for only one month, it already got expired and I had to go to the Immigration offices again and get it renewed.
The front page of the newspaper announces that, as of July 14th, 2006, indian citizens DO NOT REQUIRE a visa to come to Costa Rica (and may stay for up to 30 days)! Let me repeat that: Indian citizens DO NOT REQUIRE a visa to come to Costa Rica!
The last time I felt THIS excited was when I learned that I had been accepted as a student at the Technische Fakultät. It's the same type of excitement that makes me wildly jump up and down with joy!
So....now you know....if you're an indian citizen you now fit in the category of "Have passport, will travel"....as long as your destination is Nepal or Costa Rica...you don't need any other formal document.
When are you coming to Costa Rica?!?!
UPDATE: (Aug. 2008)
I visited Costa Rica one year later and learned that SADLY, it was all temporary. Apparently Indians need a visa to go visit Costa Rica again. I don't know if a 'restricted visa' still applies. If so...well...I will have to be prepared for the next time MasalaDad wants to visit CR. It's a good thing that Fabi now owns a Costa Rican passport.
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The picture on the left is a map of India with the outline of the state of Maharashtra - where we live. The Maharashtrians are celebrating their New Year today: 'Gudi Padwa'. This is a celebration of springtime and harvest. At this time of year the weather is hot, mangoes are in season, it's time to clean the house and get new clothes!

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Oh, wait! It *IS* an elephant!..."
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The next couple of pictures are about customs that people follow in Hinduism. No matter how much I tell you about what I've seen here, I won't be anywhere near to scratching the surface of all there is to tell. My first experience with such customs was with aarti, when Ishan and I visited his relatives' homes for the first time as a newlyweds. The married women performed aarti to me also on my 'Indian Baby Shower' (Godh Bharna) and I performed it to Ishan's father on his birthday.
When Fabi was just a few months old, one of the neighbors insisted we go visit her. I finally got around to go to her house on a Friday and I came back with a red bindi (dot) on my forehead and wearing flowers on my head. (Unfortunately, I lost that picture when my hard disk crashed.) It turned out that I had visited her on an auspicious day and therefore I got that special treatment. It was just one of those days when a married woman visits your house is a good sign.
There are so many customs. For example, there's a special ceremony when a baby gets his first bite of solid food; and there's also the time to remember the ancestors and people actually refrain themselves of things such as buying a new house during such time. It's always about waiting or celebrating during an auspicios time, for example, the exact time for a wedding to take place.
The elements involved in the ceremonies are also interesting, as they are full of meaning.
The next picture I want to show you is what the neighbor's daughter brought me one day. It's part of a monthly prayer (pooja) she's doing. She visits a married woman each month for a year starting with her own mother. Each time -as part of the prayer - she takes fruits, rice (an amount which is determined by weight), flowers, a betel leaf, a piece of cloth (which would be used to make a sari blouse), among other things. The purpose is that each time she visits a married woman, she can learn something about married life and the year long offering will help her find a good husband.
Here's a picture of three priests performing a Vastu Shanti, which is a housewarming ceremony that is celebrated before a couple moves into their new home.
The following three pictures are dedicated to people who play an important role in our life here.
The couple you see in the next picture are in charge of collecting the trash from each home in our sector EVERY day.
. Normally, 'dhobi' designates the person who does the laundry, but in this case he's in charge of coming to your house and taking the clothes you want him to iron. The next day he returns them neatly pressed. He takes loads of clothes back and forth in his bicycle. Heavy irons are used to press the clothes and they are heated with coal. It's probably the worst job to have in the summer! Ishan thinks that setting up a 'dhobi' service in Costa Rica would be a good business. I'm sure many people would be willing to pay for someone to relieve them of the agony of hours standing by the ironing board.

Speaking of the Costa Rican honking practices...when you're the first one waiting for the traffic light to change (also known, as the 'signal' here in India), the car(s) behind you will surely honk in a plank! I was thrilled to see that the traffic lights here have a counter. Look at the picture below where I have circled the counter. Isn't it great? You know exactly how many seconds are remaining before the light changes! In this picture you can also notice a couple of BEST (Bombay Electric Supply and Transport) buses crossing the road and also a woman dressed in a sari in the left-hand side of the picture.

This is the last picture related to traffic. I've pointed out an auto-rickshaw, a very practical and popular means of public transportation for short distances. Notice the woman on the left-hand side of the picture: she's wearing another traditional Indian outfit, the salwar-kameez.

I will give a moment to all of you who are reading this and think you need to recover from the same 'shock' I got.
You see...I'm sure my Mom wanted me to learn how to cook because it's important for everyone to be independent and preparing food is definitely in the list of needed survival skills. My Mom also told me that the best way to get to a man's heart was through his stomach, but I was hoping to find someone like Jamie Oliver. In case I ever ended up with a tiny baby who depended on me for his food I already had planned on being the number 1 customer for Gerber until the baby would learn how to cook for himself...and later on, hopefully cook for me too!
So, according to my upbringing I would understand if the box with the kitchen toy set would have read:
"Train your Daughter to be a good Cook"
"Train your Daughter to be a good Wife"
"Train your Daughter to be a good Mother"
or even better:
"Train your Kid to be a good Cook" (I'm hoping to teach Fabi to cook...and not just because I want him to cook for me!)
So, unless you have seen how the family dynamics work here in India, a comment like the one on the box just boggles the mind (to say the least!) When I was getting the first taste of how my life had changed with Fabi, I mentioned that in some societies in Africa, I wouldn’t even be considered a woman because I didn’t know how to cook. I guess in these places in Africa, the box would read: "Train your Daughter to be a person"....so I guess the Indian version is not so bad after all!

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... another vendor offers all kinds of (green) leaves...
and another vendor specializes in onions and potatoes. Each of these vendors have their own distinct way of calling out their goods, for example you hear them shouting "Here comes the one with vegetables!!!" Also notice the dog in the picture below. It's one of the several street dogs that live in this lane (i.e. block). Those dogs are so popular in the neighborhood that they even have names and they bark incensantly at other dogs who don't belong to this area. I think the one in the picture is 'Sparky'.
The following three pictures are all related to the construction industry :) What safety laws do you expect in a place where it's legal for babies and little kids to ride in the passenger front seat of a car, or for entire families to ride in a motorcycle? Well....homemade scaffolds made out of bamboo...
...or acrobatic workers who can come down by jumping out the window (without shoes!)
The person carring bricks on the head is a woman. She has a small baby - a little younger than Fabi - who hangs out near this construction site. I didn't like the feeling I got the first time I saw women doing this type of job. :(
On a drastic change of topic, I'll show you a picture I took with my cellphone camera. It shows my arm with the most number of bangles I have ever worn at one time. The dark green bangle (first one from left to right) and the golden bangle (last one from left to right) are traditional and have a specific meaning. The other ones are just to decorate and they match the outfit I wore for the 'function' of my 'Indian baby shower'. The sequence in which I wore the middle bangles was designed by Ishan's Dad. He actually came up with several options and I discovered it takes imagination to come up with a good design.
This is a picture of a baby crib. When I put it together to see what it looked like, it reminded me of the toy one I had when I was a little girl. I was surprised to see how low the crib is. It was mostly used in Fabi's Naming Ceremony.
Sopan and Priya showed up one day with a surprise for 'Golu' (as they call Fabi). It turned out to be a toy mask with a face of Hanuman. "Who is Hanuman?", you ask...and so will Fabi...so now I have one more reason to go and learn about Indian Mythology!
I wrote about this before: I mentioned that fair (white) skin is considered an asset in India. Here's a picture of the products for women and men who want to believe that white is better.
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Tomorrow I will post the last set of pictures for this 'India Week'.
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I scanned a menu to show it to you. Notice that the vegetarian dishes have a green 'dot in a square' symbol to identify them and the non-veg have a brown one. The prices are in Rupees (Rs.) . [1 US Dollar = 44.28 Indian Rs. according to this conversion.] I have made red marks in the menu to point out the interesting variations of the local menu.
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Speaking of cereal, Cerelac by Nestle is supposed to be baby food, but since Fabi doesn’t like it, I have it for breakfast. Notice that the box in the picture says: “Dal Palak”, which means lentils and spinach.
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The next picture is a coconut scraper. Coconut is an important ingredient in several Indian dishes. Coconuts are widely sold and used in various ways: to drink its water, to scrape its flesh and use it as an ingredient in recipes and even to offer them to a deity in a temple or in the shrines that people keep in their houses. Coconut oil is also very popular for head massages: it's suppossed to help cool off and help make the hair shiny and healthy. The left-hand side of the following picture shows one type of coconut scraper. The right-hand side shows the scraper with a tray of coconut flesh and red chillies. These ingredients were later added to a dish of fish curry. When Ishan's mother saw me taking a picture of this, she was curious and asked me how do we scrape the coconut in Costa Rica. I told her coconut is mainly used in some desserts and we just get packages of it at the supermarket.
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Behold the 'Indian broom'! They come in different sizes; some are made of harsh straw to sweep exteriors and some are softer to sweep indoors. If you're not used to these types of brooms it can be very harsh on your back: you have to bend or squat. However, if you're used to them, you will do a better sweeping job than with a 'western' broom. I've also seen versions of the 'Indian broom' that have a long stick attached to it and they’re used to sweep the streets or construction sites. Nowadays, you can also find the same design made out of plastic and therefore, in different colors!
If you're not from India, I challenge you to guess what the object in the next picture is! To me it looks like a weapon, but it's actually a board to hit the clothes as they're being washed. That's right! The clothes are soaked in soapy water and then 'punished' to get the dirt out. I wonder who came up with this system?!...
Here's another interesting object that looks like it belongs in a mechanical shop or in a dentist's office, but it actually belongs in the kitchen. Read on...
This is a common cooking vessel (i.e. pot), made of steel just like many other cooking utensils. Some vessels also are made of aluminium or copper, but have the same style as the one shown in the picture.
Since these utensils get hot while cooking, the 'plyers' shown before are used to hold the hot vessels, just as shown in the picture. I’ve seen two different types of plyers. They’re not difficult to use.
Here's a view of a common dishholder found in many Indian homes. Shiny, isn't it? I told you steel was popular!
Chapatis are the ‘daily bread’ around here. Fresh homemade chapatis are quite popular eventhough you can also get them readymade and heat them in the microwave. The dough is made out of wheat flour, oil and salt. A little ball of dough is then extended on a round board with the roller stick (seen in the picture below) and then placed on the stove until the chapati is ready. Other chapati-makers are also available, which guarantee the outcome of a round chapati from the dough. The Costa Rican version of chapatis would be the ‘tortillas’, which are also flat and round but made out of corn flour. Traditionally, fresh ones would be made every day and women used nothing except the palms of their hands to make perfectly round tortillas. Now they’re mainly bought readymade.
Just thought I’d post a picture of Fabi getting familiar with the board and roller stick to make chapatis. Notice he’s sitting on the kitchen floor next to his grandmother right before cooking a batch of chapatis. Also notice the newspaper sheet under the board – to protect the floor.
This next picture shows two ‘dabbas’ (hindi word for lunch) or ‘tiffins’ (old fashioned English word for lunch box). They come in different sizes and have separate compartments to store the food, usually, rice, dal, a vegetable item, a salad and of course, chapatis. Many people who work in Mumbai city order their homemade-style lunch that they get in dabbas. This is so common, that there are people known as ‘dabbawallas’ (meaning, the one who carries dabbas) who are in charge of delivering these lunches to office buildings.
When I used to work here in India, MasalaDad and I ordered our dinner in a dabba. People don’t need a lot of furniture here in India and are comfortable eating while sitting down on the floor. I took this picture with my camera phone. It shows the sitting arrangement. Notice the newspaper sheet on the floor and the steel plate, cup and spoon on Ishan’s side. Those were my earlier days here, now we have a table and real placemats (that match my Corelle set!)
This last tool is not necessarily ‘Indian’, but it’s very useful here in (Navi) Mumbai, where the swampy area is the perfect place for all those mosquitoes to grow. When you wave this racket and press the button on the handle, an electric shock kills the mosquitoes that come in contact with it. Now that summer is here, the number of mosquitoes has come down significantly. I’m very glad because even though Fabi slept under a mosquito net, he sometimes got bitten during the day.
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